I must step back and take a look at myself, my actions and my attitude. If I want to be effective with my Children, I must target at their hearts. It’s all to easy for me, to scream and shout. That is very simple to do. I must be firm, loving and sincere with the way I choose to instruct my children. Rather than screaming, with a demeaning voice. I Praise their efforts, I tell them how wonderful of a job they do when I need them to get things done.
Encouragement is effective and especially boys they thrive off encouragement and praise. I tell my children how much I appreciate their help. They cleaned their room, my reply; “Wow what an amazing job you did! You room is shining. Thank you so much for your help. I am so thankful.”
My children are 3, 4 and 6. I thank God for He shows me how to raise them. What also helps is for me to think about, how did I feel as a child, when I was so often yelled at? When all I wanted, was love and just a hug.
It reminds me to stay calm, say a prayer and ask for the LORD’S help.
Another thing I do with my children when they are not listening. I ask them; “so if you get married someday and have children, how will you feel when they don’t listen to you? How will you discipline them? My 4 year olds response; ” I would pray for them.” Wow, now tell me that isn’t Amazing! I was amazed to hear my son’s response. Great answer!
What works? Encouragement, dedication, love, prayer and GOD’S Glorious ways.
Who, on this earth, is perfect?
Note to self: Lighten up and love those children. 🙂
“When she speaks, her words are wise, and she gives instructions with kindness.” {Proverbs 31:26}NLT