Tuesday, January 24, 2012

What can I do so I don't lose my temper with my children?

          I must step back and take a look at myself, my actions and my attitude. If I want to be effective with my Children, I must target at their hearts. It's all to easy for me, to scream and shout. That is very simple to do. I must be firm, loving and sincere with the way I choose to instruct my children. Rather than screaming, with a demeaning voice. I Praise their efforts, I tell them how wonderful of a job they do when I need them to get things done.

Encouragement is effective and especially boys they thrive off encouragement and praise. I tell my children how much I appreciate their help. They cleaned their room, my reply; "Wow what an amazing job you did! You room is shining. Thank you so much for your help. I am so thankful."

My children are 3, 4 and 6. I thank God for He shows me how to raise them. What also helps is for me to think about, how did I feel as a child, when I was so often yelled at? When all I wanted, was love and just a hug.

It reminds me to stay calm, say a prayer and ask for the LORD'S help.

Another thing I do with my children when they are not listening. I ask them; "so if you get married someday and have children, how will you feel when they don't listen to you? How will you discipline them? My 4 year olds response; " I would pray for them." Wow, now tell me that isn't Amazing! I was amazed to hear my son's response. Great answer!

What works? Encouragement, dedication, love, prayer and GOD'S Glorious ways.

Who, on this earth, is perfect?

Note to self: Lighten up and love those children. :)

"When she speaks, her words are wise, and she gives instructions with kindness." {Proverbs 31:26}NLT 


  1. Great picture Vanessa! And I must say, sometimes my kids 'did' see me like that. Well, I still have my days, but not near so many any more ... Thank God for growth! (and most of that growth HAS come at the hands of my kids)

    1. Oh yes, I understand! I agree growth has come from my little one's too! Praise GOD, for His Mercy and Grace. I need the LORD'S Help daily! every second, every minute, every hour, every day, every week, every month... All the days of my life!

      Teach me thy ways O Precious LORD!



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