Thursday, April 21, 2011

Crown or a Thorn? by Katrina Smith

My favorite book of the bible has always been the Book of Matthew but if I’m running behind and need quick wisdom, I read Proverbs. Proverbs can be quite uncomfortable to read. Why? Because it hurts! It holds small bits of wisdom with a powerful punch. They convict you down to your very core with just a few short words. Last night I read one that made me think, “OUCH!”

“A wife of noble character is her husband’s crown, but a disgraceful wife is like decay in his bones.” Proverbs 12:4

If you really read them and then research the definition or root of the words that were chosen, then you will see why they were chosen.

Crown – “A royal headdress or cap of sovereignty, worn by emperors, kings, princes, etc.”

Rotten – “A state of putrefaction or decay; decomposed; made weak or unsound by rot.”

Crowns are placed on a person’s head when they are deemed royalty. If you are respected as a woman of noble character, because you are kind, positive, giving and supportive, your husband will be deemed a king. Your character and reputation can elevate his position in life. Now, if you are a woman of disgrace, by being bitter, throwing tantrums when you don’t get your way, always thinking in a selfish manner, then it is like rottenness to his bones. Wow.

The bible chose “rotten” as a word, meaning, your poor character will cause him to decay as a man emasculating him in every since of the word, all the way to the bone. Now before I get jumped on by the women, let’s give an example of a real time occurrence.

Right now as I write, I can guarantee you there is a man in the ARMY stationed in Afghanistan where he has been sleeping in the desert for 7 months on ground that shakes constantly from bombs going off. He just longs to get home to see his family, take a shower and eat some real food. His son was barely sitting up when he last saw him and now he is walking. His wife calls him weekly and she is nagging him about being away and how she feels lonely, how this is rough on her and how all she does is take care of the baby. She needs a break but little does he know that she has been flirting and mingling with an ex-boyfriend and spending all of their money and maxing out their credit cards while all of their bills are falling behind. Next week, one of his friends will write to tell him of the betrayal.

On the other hand, a fellow soldier that is stationed with him also has a wife and a child and she works as a teacher but there have been cut-backs and just lost her job. Her students always made care packages and cards to send to the soldiers thanking them for their service and sacrifice. They are having financial trouble but she picks up a part-time job at the local restaurant to keep their home and goes to bible study at the same church that they were both baptized and married in. She stays 30 minutes after every single bible study in private prayer. When her husband calls, she begins the call with prayer and then uses uplifting words of encouragement, wisdom, loving support and gives him the courage to hang in there.

Now, which man will likely be focused on their mission? Which one is more likely to rise in rank and position? Which will be in a better state of mind to lead and inspire the teenagers that were just enlisted, trained and shipped? The one that is being built up, encouraged and supported or the one being nagged, belittled and betrayed?

Women are either cranes or a bulldozers; a crown on his head or a thorn in his side. We have the ability to build a man up or tear him down; to give him honor and respect or bring him pain and misery. Our character, attitude and actions have a direct affect on his masculinity, the very thing that makes him a man. They were created to cover, redeem, provide and to protect and we were created to give, support, encourage and motivate. It is suppose to be a team effort. If we both are doing our jobs, then there is no need to worry. Love is not self-seeking.

For the women... seek to become a crane not a bulldozer.

For the men... choose wisely!

Be blessed!

{Butterfly Movement}

Thanks Katrina! Awesome Word! ♥

Wednesday, April 20, 2011

Happy Birthday!

To My handsome man of God, words could never express my gratitude… I love you so much and I have so much to be thankful for. The beautiful family That God has blessed us with, it‘s more than I dreamed of. We have been through the storms of life, you have stood by my side for better or for WORST. You have seen me at my absolute worst, the good, the bad, the ugly. I could never thank you enough for enduring our fiery trials. You have loved me through it all, despite my ugly, corrupted past, my numerous mistakes. You have never thrown my past back in my face. I desire transparency with you and with the world because I know in being transparent I have nothing to loose. I’ve learned that being broken has brought me gently to my knees. Therefore my soul glorifies the Lord. Out of all the women you could have married, I thank you deeply for choosing me. Have a very blessed birthday my king.

I realized that it's good and proper for a man to eat and drink. It's good for him to be satisfied with his hard work on this earth. That's what he should do during the few days of life God has given him. That's what God made him for.
Sometimes God gives a man wealth and possessions. He makes it possible for him to enjoy them. He helps him accept the life he has given him. He helps him to be happy in his work. All of those things are gifts from God. A man like that doesn't have to think about how his life is going. That's because God fills his heart with joy. {Ecclesiastes 5:18-20 NIrV}

May your heart be filled with the Joy of the Lord as long as you shall live!
Baby, Enjoy your day and all the days that God has given you! I love you profusely.

Massive Respect and Adoration,
Mrs. White

Monday, April 11, 2011

An Excellent Wife

“An excellent wife is the CROWN of her Husband. But she who causes shame is like rottenness to his bones.” {Proverbs 12:4} 

Lord Father God, how Glorious You Are! You’re Holy, Righteous and Amazing. Your Words are life to my soul, a light unto my path, the air that I breath. I desire with all my heart to live my life for You, to be obedient in every area of my life. To be a living sacrifice, giving You all that is within me.

Heavenly Father please equip me with all that I need to be a excellent wife for my dear husband. May I be a beautiful adornment, a beautiful crown that my husband wears proudly and cherishes. Please teach me how to convey Love and Respect to my husband with a fresh perspective. May I be graceful with my words and choose them wisely. Please give me a heart that loves at all times and conveys unconditional respect. Let me be  (a reverent woman) LORD. Please take away any selfishness and pride. May I be a woman who extends grace and mercy; who is kind, gentle, and submissive. May my words and my actions glorify and honor you O LORD.

Proverbs 12:4b says’ “She who causes shame is like rottenness to his bones” Please Lord pour your grace upon me. I do not ever, want to be rottenness to my husbands bones. May I be a delight and helpmate that you have called me to be. May my marriage and my life Glorify and Honor You Lord as long as I shall live.

My check list:

✔  Honor my husband with my words
✔  Honor my husband with my actions
✔  Choose my words wisely
✔  Be an encouragement; Build him up
✔  Be my Husband's Crown


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