Saturday, February 27, 2016

Biblical Womanhood: Sweet Submission


     I love learning and growing stronger and closer to the LORD. I love to seek His will. I take great delight in His ways because I once lived in complete darkness, far apart from Christ. I'm so excited about learning more and more about biblical womanhood and what true submission is. I did not always have a good attitude about it. There were a lot of times I studied God's word and read books about biblical womanhood and I would become discouraged, frustrated, and even angry at times. I'd close the books and in my heart I would say, "God, this is so hard and I don't understand?" Biblical submission was so foreign to me, my heart can be so rebellious... For some reason I could not comprehend it. Independence has always been my struggle and even as a child, I'd tell my mom; "No, mommy I don't need help, I can do it by myself." The problem was that type of attitude stuck with me throughout my adulthood and into my marriage. My ugly thoughts were; "I don't need you," "I can do this on my own," "I'm highly capable," "I'm not lazy, I can do this." "I don't need help, I'd rather do it on my own and get the job done," "let me have my space, your in my way," "I like taking control of my own life," "let me lead, I'm in charge," "don't tell me what to do," "if I submit to my husband, he will walk all over me," "i'll be a doormat," "I can't submit because he's living for himself," "I can't submit because he's not following You." "I'll do as I please." And the list went on and on. Ugly! I know. This kind of thinking is not honorable at all and to treat people this way was a sure sign that I was secretly treating God that way. If I could not submit to the human authority God placed over me for my protection what made me think I was submitting to God? I was rebellious and stubborn. The enemy still whispers those same lies today as he did in the garden; "Did God really say? ..." 

I'm so thankful God did not give up on me or leave me clueless. It was a process, admitting how desperately I needed God's help, confessing my sins, letting God speak to my heart, meditating on His all sufficient word, Letting Him wash my mind with the truth of His Word and exposing the lies of this world. Submission means God intervenes.  

“Lean on, trust in, and be confident in the Lord with all your heart and mind and do not rely on your own insight or understanding. In all your ways know, recognize, and acknowledge Him, and He will direct and make straight and plain your paths.”
Proverbs 3:5-6 AMP

Oh, let me be a woman full of grace, mercy, forgiveness, peace, and love. A woman who reverences her husband. Let everything I do be for His glory. It's not about me. Less of me, more of HIM. 

The LORD has done great things for us, and we are filled with joy. {Psalm 126:3} 

“A virtuous and worthy wife [earnest and strong in character] is a crowning joy to her husband, but she who makes him ashamed is as rottenness in his bones. [Prov. 31:23; I Cor. 11:7.]” {Proverbs 12:4 AMP}

Dear husband, I adore you... I respect you... I submit... 

Sunday, May 31, 2015

What She Speaks


Better to live in a desert than with a quarrelsome and ill tempered wife. 
{Proverbs 21:19}

I admit, I struggle with my emotions and sometimes my emotions drag me down. With all my heart, I do not want to be a quarrelsome wife or an ill tempered wife. I get so frustrated when I'm feeling misunderstood or I cannot articulate something to my husband in a way he can understand my heart. I get confused and even annoyed. I do not like those feelings nor do I even like to let my emotions control me. I really thank God so much that my husband is so patient with me. We have been married over 10 1/2 years now and in the beginning of our marriage I was an emotional wreck. :( 
I am 36 years old and I am still learning so much about biblical womanhood. 

I really had to learn a different way of communicating with my husband. I have to practice how to speak to him in a respectful tone of voice. I had to practice and make sure my facial expressions were not conveying disrespect and dishonor. I truly take delight in God's perfect design for womanhood. God's Word is teaching me so much about character, honor, respect, womanhood, and submitting to my husband in a God honoring way (really its beautiful). It's our trust in God that enables us to submit. I really had to do a lot of confessing to the LORD and admitting how desperately, I needed His help and abundant grace in this area of my life.        

Dear LORD, Your design for womanhood is amazingly beautiful, I delight in your decrees and in Your ways. Please LORD, teach me how to truly honor and respect my husband. Show me how to take control of my emotions and use them for your glory. Teach me the skill of clear, respectful communication. Let my words be wisely chosen.   

 She opens her mouth with wisdom; and on her tongue is the law of kindness.
 {Proverbs 31:26}

Wednesday, May 13, 2015

A wise woman builds her home, but a foolish woman tears it down with her own hands. 
{Proverbs 14:1}

She does him good and not evil all the days of her life. 
{Proverbs 31:12} 

Wednesday, March 4, 2015


Produce fruit in keeping in repentance. {Matthew 3:8} 

 When I come before the LORD and admit that I'm struggling with sin in my life. He heals this broken heart. HIS Love and His Holy Spirit gives me the desire to want to be obedient, only in His strength I am able to obey and live out His will and not my own will. The LORD is compassionate, He's so quick to forgive. I realize it's so easy to sin, it's effortless. I definitely do not need to practice how to sin, nor does anyone have to teach me. I do not want any pride to get in my way. Therefore, let me be that woman who admits: I need God, I need His strength, I need His mercy, I need His Grace, I need His love, I need His guidance, I need His forgiveness and I need to repent and rely on HIM to make me whole and complete. Our GOD is awesomely wonderful! 

 Let us then with confidence draw near to the throne of grace, that we may receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need. 
Hebrews 4:16

 If we confess our sins, he is faithful and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness 
1 John 1:19 

 But the Holy Spirit produces this kind of fruit in our lives: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, self-control... 
Galatians 5:22-23

Tuesday, February 17, 2015


I am so thankful for who the LORD is and all He has done. He has taken away my shame. When I look to Jesus, He fills this broken heart with His love, grace, and mercy. When I look to Him, the worries of this world just fades away. 
Ladies, let us look to Him. Let His praises always be on our lips.

Dear Lord, let every word I speak be a blessing.

Tuesday, December 30, 2014

Overcome evil with good

A godly woman overcomes evil with good. She is not lagging in diligence, she is fervent in spirit serving the Lord; rejoicing in hope, patient in tribulation, continuing steadfast in prayer...
Romans 12:11-12

O Father God, you know the needs of your children. We lift up our marriages to you, we lift up our husband's to You, Father God. Help us to bless our husband's and not ever curse them or discourage them. Let our words, be wise. Let us know when we need to talk less. Help us to repay evil with good. Help us to joyfully serve and trust that all things are in Your hands because we truly know that they are. Let us be a beautiful light that shines bright. Help us to always be fervent in spirit serving You. You are everything we need, help us to get to know You through Your Word.

Saturday, October 25, 2014

My Ministry, Most Precious to me

                        Motherhood is a full time job and I choose to be a stay-at-home Mom. I take great honor in that and sadly, I have not always thought this way. I understand every woman has a different situation and some Moms have to work and leave the home. Whatever, God has called each of us to do, let us do it with His great strength and honor. I'm pressing on each day asking for God's endless mercy, grace, wisdom, knowledge, and understanding. I have a deep desire to live my life for the glory of God and the truth is, I fail miserably at times and I'm not always the wife or mother I wish and dream to be. I miss the mark, I stumble, and/or I lose patience. I am desperately in need of mercy and grace. Our Heavenly Father is so patient with us, slow to anger and abounding in love {Psalm 103:8}. How much more should I be patient with my dear husband and children? They are my ministry and my sweet blessings in life. The truth is they show me how to love unconditionally, they show me how to give grace, give mercy, and be selfless and mostly, they show me how to truly exemplify Christ. It is the ministry that is giving me life, it truly teaches me to be that godly virtuous woman who is set apart for her Lord {Psalm 4:3}. It's not about me, it's all about God and His marvelous plan unfolding. Lord, change me ...

When she speaks, her words are wise, and she gives instructions with kindness. She carefully watches everything in her household and suffers nothing from laziness. Her children stand and bless her. Her husband praises her: “There are many virtuous and capable women in the world, but you surpass them all!” Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last; but a woman who fears the LORD will be greatly praised. Reward her for all she has done. Let her deeds publicly declare her praise. (Proverbs 31:26-31 NLT)


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